i'm going to assume she's coming back, but not til christmas and there won't be any good signs til almost thanksgiving.
Be careful with setting timeframes, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Live in the now and accept what is. She is sick, saying she will be better by Christmas is sort of like saying someones cancer will be in remission by next month. I would take each day as it comes.
I have started contemplating plans for what I want to do if W does not come back. I have started thinking of a timeframe for when I would start pushing for dissolution. Unfortunately, it is the only part of the relationship of which I have total control. Thus, the only thing to which I can set a timeframe. Now I happen to be thinking the beginning of next year as well. I figure if she shows no desire to be a family through the holdiays, then it is probably a marriage that needs dissolved.
Originally Posted By: ryepatch
anyone have any ideas why she might not be contacting me, or going ahead with the D?
I would guess she is having ambivalent thoughts about it. Plus, what would her motivation be for pushing for a divorce now? It would cost her money and it sounds like she would owe you spousal support after it was done. She has a better deal where she is at right now. Finally, if she is sick, she is going to be doing irrational things.
