I do a lot better with do this, do this, than grey area.
A couple of things about that.
First, give a man a fish and he eats for a day, teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime...and he more than likely stole your fishing hole that ingrateful b-tard.
Second... No. Too much responsibility and too easy if something bad happens for you to blame someone else as giving you crappy advice. You're not a robot.
Third, This is for you, you do this for you. You grow, you learn, and the results are all because of you. If you're marriage is rebuilt it is because of your actions, and it isn't a lie, it isn't someone elses words coming out of your mouth, its not someone else plan, you not only charted your course you walked it.
I got my experience by doing and listen to the advice that made sense to me. Not because someone told me what to do...it doesn't work well that way, I am me, my wife knows me, not someone putting words in my mouth or making me dance.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
well one thing for sure that drove her nuts, is i was impulsive and that i never listened. the thought hit me and i acted man and she knows I was busting my butt so when we were 42 we could go do stuff and she'd say something and I always had a solution. Some of the other stuff was add related, which ok I pace and don't sit, i can learn how to be organized and not forget stuff. But sitting,ughhh.
Patience, i'm learning it.
I've been wanting to not smoke for a long time, that is probably the most important thing to D.
My S he just wants his dad, man I know he's hurting, he has become more and more withdrawn, tonite taking and coming from practice he hardly said a word, it's been like that the last couple times.
Tonite i picked up their favorite snacks and drinks, i'm going to figure out a way to put them in the fridge for them tomorrow, so when they get out of school the snacks are there.
Noticed wife put halloween decorations all over the place, some are even the neighbor's, one of these days I'm going to beat him up. We didn't decorate for halloween before and she knows that was my favorite holiday, never missed taking a kid out. I'd walk until they begged to come home, still have candy from last yr. Til maybe now.
I have my plan, I'll change the things that need to be changed, the things that deep,deep down you know are your faults and they make you as a person feel guilty, but no I am not changing my self for someone else.Because some faults to someone else are my gifts.
I just want to be a better me. And yes I need some advice,because I usually do not think before I react. or type for that matter. You guys have no idea how long these posts really could've been,almost turned it into a journal.
I am just desperate like others to be with kids, have some of the good old days, and just plain worried about someone that meant more to them than most anything in the world.
We know what we're made of or we wouldn't be here,there's no quitters on this forum. And fair warning frustration can make you want to quit. But all the signs are pointing in the right direction.
Just keep pointing me in the right direction. Thanks.
I usually do not think before I react. or type for that matter.
Well, this will give you plenty of practice. You can start with anything that comes at you. Then you have to force yourself to breathe, count to ten whatever works for you, first. It's ok (and in alot of cases good) to say I'll get back to you on that.
You don't have to have an answer/solution right off the top of your head. I think men are hardwired differently as far as reaction goes (the whole protector thing), these aren't life or death situations (regardless of how it feels, one or more mistakes won't make or break anything), so push yourself. You can do it.
What I want to say is, pick out the car you want, I'll make the Suzuki go away, do you want me on the loan. I'll take care of the snacks. So we switch houses after in laws leave.
Or..I found the car I want. Me How soon do you want the car? When is the lease up on the Suzuki? Me As soon as you want it to be.
We are responsible for snacks this weekend at S game. Do you want me to take care of it?Me Love to handle it. Mom and Ken are supposed to come this weekend.me Great
