Laurie did echo my feelings that the GALing has had the opposite effect, she said that there are a small number of cases where GALing does not work and it depends on the type of H we are dealing with. She believes that my H is suffering a mild depression as well. She said that it was good that he could put into an email all his feelings as she said usually the H's do not communicate anything of their feelings.
My goal for today was to keep him at home, unfortunately due to circumstances at work it prevented me from answering him straight away, he took this as me not caring enough and so decided to leave.
He sent the email at 7.24am. I was at work early so I could do the coaching session. Email arrived in my inbox at 9.30am by the that time, auditors well and truly on their nit picking warpath through the trust books and files. I replied 1 1/2 hours later which according to him was far to late.
Mind you if I ever sent him an email and he didn't respond at all he saw nothing wrong in it, he was busy and that was all there was to it, end of story.
Laurie did feel we are dealing with an H who has double standards and that in itself presents problems.
I appreciate your thoughts Cas, it really makes you wonder how we keep going but we seem to no matter what gets thrown at us.
