If you haven't had a R talk in quite a while, I don't see where having a 'let's see where we're at chat' can do any harm.
Pick a place that's mutually 'safe'...say a nice diner over coffee and a piece of apple pie or a stroll through your local park or sitting parked at a water's overlook. Someplace quiet and nonthreatening to either of you. EVEN if it has to be OUTSIDE in your own backyard.
Keep the convo POSITIVE. Don't use any negative statements like: I KNOW you're renewing your lease, guess that means you're NOT coming home anytime soon if ever.
DON'T say anything that will make him have to defend his current position.
How about saying, "I know this past year has been as tough for you, as it has been for me. As painful and confusing as it's been, I'm grateful to have had the time and opportunity to step back and review my life, my wants and my needs. I hope that you have too. I love you, and I am determined to hang on to that love, for as long as I can, and I hope that you will find your way back to me once you've had a chance to work through whatever it is you need to do. I have come to see my own flaws and shortcomings as well as my stengths and assets, I like me better now AND I think I understand your need to find those answers for and about yourself too. I may not be your wife right now, but I will always be your friend."
Then END the R convo. Let it all sink in. Let him silently mull over your announcement of commitment to him and what he's going through. It'll be tough. It won't have instant healing as a response....but IT WILL give him permission to not feel so pressured to "CURE" himself immediately, and that will work in YOUR favor eventually.
