Hi Oz, Firstly hugs to you because it must be a really tough night for you. It's times like this when I wish I knew your phone number and we could have a real time chat. Next time I am in Melbourne we'll meet for lunch! I am so sorry your day has gone so pear shaped. As i read through all the posts since I added my quick message I realise that I don't really have any insightful and considered response. I do, however, endorse the chocolates, wine and icecream.
I was going to comment on your coaching conversation and what Laurie said about the reverse effect on your H. That was what I was posting about the other day when I asked for opinions from Dia. I had tried distancing before when I was having DB coaching and it backfired. Until recently we had made pleasing progress, although slow and my impatience and his cake eating sent me to nc once again. It's now 4 weeks since I had contact. Today he emailed asking for my solicitor's name. This may well just give you insight to another situation where Galing and independence may well have been detrimental. In my sitch I may just be ready for the financial dissolution but perhaps not through solicitors which we had previously said we would try to avoid.
Just some food for thought....
I sincerely hope you can resolve this in a timely and peaceful manner. Thoughts are with you. Cas
