I am going to be absolute no use to you now for advice as I now have to 180 my 180's which is a contradiction but that's how it goes.
I think for you and your sitch you are doing extremely well and you just need to keep it going as you have been. Of course you now want your own life as much as your H that is because you have had a taste of it but even if all gets resolved with your R and we all hope that is the case, there is no reason for you to give up your new life, it would just mean that both of your independent lives have to be adapted to allow you both time to be together and time to do the things you enjoy independently of each other.
