Crazy is a spectrum. And we`re all on some part of that spectrum.
Best thing I did for me was look at my own piece of crazy. The affect my jumping has on everyone around me. My need to react to the small stuff.
And how I learned all that crazy stuff in the first place.
Best thing I`m doing now is finding my well of calm. Just for me! Dipping into that every day and taking it with me.
Yup, I still can spin.
But I`m aware that I`m spinning and that awareness helps me stop.
H never used this time to look at himself. He doesn`t get that he has a whole big bunch of craziness too. In his eyes everything is still my fault.
I`m ok with that. His spinning only makes him dizzy now. I cant help him stop.
But he has seen my changes. He curious. And, by his own admission, jealous.
My stopping spinning has calmed his spin a little bit -at least to the point that he won`t threaten to hit me anymore. But he has needed me to spin to keep his dance going and now his spin is fueled with the anger/jealousy he has for me getting on with my life.
Get out of the push/pull with these guys.They`ll drive you further up the crazy spectrum. Own your bit of craziness and heal it.
That`s just one of the gifts this Crazy Dance of the Whirling Dervishes can help you achieve.
