What to do when H doesn't contact?

[ryepatch]

lost,

i just spent last night and tonight reading through your whole thread and i'm amazed at your love and persistence after 10 months. my wife has been gone almost 4 months with essentially no contact for 3 months and i am in a really bad position. my wife is also sick, our therapist today said he's 90% sure she has a mood disorder. we can only try and keep the faith that they'll return to the people they always were and get the help they need. we gotta work on emotionally detaching and trusting that they'll come around eventually, but not waiting for that day to live our lives. i think you should try to get out socially as much as you can. i also wanted to tell you about DBSA, the depression and bipolar support alliance, and NAMI, the national alliance on mental illness. they have a lot of resources (including support groups) for family members of people with mental illness. search for their websites and see if they have any resources that can help you.

i hope you're hanging in there, and make sure your son's getting the mental health care he needs.

i think you're doing the right thing.

-ryepatch