now, this has nothing to do with exh and why your not together.
but his comment about you not changing. By the posts you have made, you aren't changing. as JonF said, you keep talking and talking about him and what he's doing. because of this, I KNOW you are not changing you because you are focused on him.
I'm not saying that he is right, I'm saying this for YOU. He's got a worldfull of changes to make for himself and that's a whole different story, but YOU know what you can do to change, and we know you have the ability to do it and the will to do it, but you just have to make that step and take the action. I know you've made changes since your sitch started, but you need to continue moving forward, not moving backward.
I think for your exh point of view, I think he does want to have the family back, but he lives in the moment. so when he's not with you, he needs a ride, or he needs some time of whatever, and so the gf is there. And because of his alcoholism I believe this just makes it all that much worse.
I'm glad you didn't respond to his comments, there probably wasn't anything you could have said.
I'm glad that you are going to make efforts to be active and social. it doesn't mean you have to take lots of time away from baby, but give yourself time to be you and grow into a better you. It's important for you to take care of yourself, otherwise you can't be the best mom/person you can be.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
