Year 2...and still breathing!

[BeingMe]

Omigosh, Wii! Just take it easy. Keep up the fluid intake, and loads of fruit and veggies. I'm a big fan of taking Vit. D ---- I usually take 1000IU a day. Strengthens ones immune system.

Thinking of ya!

[whatisis]

Being Me, apparently I have no immune system! OMG how I hate this summer. Bring on Fall!
Tonight I went to a church service with my woman friend, who is also my best friends sister in law! I'm now waiting for my best friend to call and we can chat. He just found out yesterday the W was also cheating on him. It just gets better and better, doesn't it. You know, a lot of people say they don't need a Bible to tell them how to live, they can use common sense and do just as well. From what I've been seeing around me, we need the Bible BADLY! It's just so easy for people to twist and justify the terrible things they do to each other...just too easy. But then again, I once knew a Christian guy who left his wife and told her "God has big plans for me and they don't include you"...I guess no one is immune. I try now to keep in mind something my Pastor said to me a while back, he said "Whatis, I've learned in this job that in difficult situations really good people can do some really bad things" I think that about sums it up.

[BeingMe]

really good people can do some really bad things

So true! We have to just try and see them how God sees them, the potential they have, and to see that we too are imperfect and we can only hope that God sees our potential for good too.

Take care.

[whatisis]

Well, Whatis just spent two days wiping his friends tears. It's just horrible watching someone go through this. I'm thankful that my pain has made it possible to understand his and be there for him.
Y'know sometimes I just think people are plain evil! The pain people inflict on each other and so much of the time they don't even know why they're doing it. Lord, save us from ourselves!
Whatis has to wind down now and re-energize.

[whatisis]

Wow, isn't it great when my life seems to be the best one of anyone around me! (read: sarcasm here). Let's see, my best friend is still nursing his wounds, I call him every night and get together at least once a week. My next best friend has had her AD's doubled, is on Ativan and her doctor wanted to Form her (put her away)last week for suicidial ideation. Thankfully, she's calmed down this week. And now I hear from my brother who has just lost his job and yesterday I learned of a church friend who has a terminal brain tumour. I sit with her husband most Sundays at church. My life is looking super right now, everybody elses sucks though! At least my parents are alive!!!!...for now. So, I'm hanging in there, doing my best to support who I can but damn it's hard. Better to be me than them I guess. This too shall pass...I hope! Btw, I have an appointment to see a psychologist this week, I felt it was time to check in. I'm still not using the AD's' the doctor gave me but I am using a sleeping pill here and there.
Later Dbers.

[BeingMe]

Hi Wii! So glad to hear from you, but sorry about the people in your personal life who are struggling.

Take care.

[whatisis]

Thanks for dropping by, Being Me. I just caught up on your thread and I too am sorry for the loss of your friend. I lost a friend to lung cancer two years ago and I was always amazed at her ability to carry on knowing that the end was coming closer each day. I guess it's the same for all of us but she knew her days would be far fewer than the rest of us. Yet, none of us really know, do we. My friend at church was perfectly fine a week and a half ago and now, 10 days later, they tell her it's "terminal". On the positive side, my boss told me she knew someone with a terminal brain tumour who was given a year to live and lived eight! Who really knows what's ahead for any of us. Being me, I hope and trust you are staying strong in your situation!
My Chiropractor today suggested I go to a Hypnotist who works out of her second office. Anybody ever gone to a hypnotist due to stress? Did it help? She also suggested a Naturopathic Doctor to help me re-energize the adrenal glands which are pretty burned out these days! Anybody's thoughts on either of these suggestions would be appreciated here. None of these options is covered by my insurance plan so it's out of my pocket. I want to spend wisely!

[whatisis]

I was cleaning out a drawer tonight and came across all the poems I had written during my long dark period which was the last few years of my marriage. I'll share one with you folks. Why? I have no idea.

How Do We Tell Them

How do we tell the children
that we are destined to part?
We could tell them...
"we're just like pencils that won't sharpen anymore,
our lead is all broken from falls to the floor."
Or...
"we're like pencils that just got tucked away,
lost and forgotten in a seldom used drawer."
Or...
"one pencil just fell suddenly to the floor one day
and was scooped up by another and stolen away".
Or...
"we just got way too distracted by all the other pretty pencils in the box"
Or...we could say
"your mother is a fine point and your dad an HB"

But if we were both pencils, this much I know
I'd really want to be the red one
'cuz that would at least make sense
unlike all the rest of this crazy pencil bullsh@t!

Yes indeed, creative genius at it's finest!

[theoden]

Whatisis,

I think a Naturopathic doctor might be worth seeing.

Have a look at Prescptions for Natural Cures by Balch and Stengler. It's an alternative medicine bible of sorts. Diet, excercise, de-toxification, fasts, supplements, herbal remedies, homeopathics, aromatherpy, acupuncture, reflexology, flower essences, etc. Excellent resource. They list a condition and outline multiple approaches for dealing with it.

I've suffered from anxiety/stress issues, mostly panic attacks. I was getting chest pains and was always fatigued.

What helped me:

1. A low glycemic index, healthy diet. The GI diet, South Beach and Mediterranen diet are all pretty similar. In general, eat more fiber-rich foods (Fruit, beans, vegetables, whole grains, oatmeal, etc.) Healthy fats (deep sea fish, olive oil, canola oil, flax-seed oil, nuts). Lean protien (chicken, fish, red-meat, low fat yogurt, low-fat cottage cheese, feta/goat milk cheese, etc). Red wine is great for you!!!! In general, avoid processed, refined foods (cookies, pastries, potato chips, white rice, pasta). Avoid too many sweets. Try and avoid potatoes. If you have grains, go for Brown rice, whole wheat bread, sourdough, whole grain rye, etc. Go easy on the beer!!! Eat three moderate meals a day and have two snacks. Snack on things like fruit and nuts. The idea is that foods that spike your blood surar levels and insulin tend to make you more emotionally volatile and stressed out. It also stabilizes your cholesterol/triglycerides, will prevent diabetes, and gives you more energy overall. Getting a well-balanced diet rich in cruciferous vegetables boosts the immune system. Getting lots of fiber (soluable/insoluable) helps de-toxify the body, which relieves stress and boosts your immune system. You might also lose weight on it!!!!

2. Excercize. 3-5 times a week. Helps with stress and anxiety. Boosts the immune system. If you are trying to reduce stress, Yoga is good.

3. Regular regimen of vitamins/supplements. Echinecea and Goldenseal are good for immune function.

4. I use the bach flower essence: Rescue Remedy. It's homeopathic and aimed to calm the nerves.

5. Having people around you who care for you and are able to give to you. It's great being the sounding board for other people's problems, but, sometimes it nice just to shoot the breeze and have fun.

Peace,

Theoden

[whatisis]

Thanks Theo, that info is helpful. I'm feeling some better this week and am making sure I get good sleep to offset some of the fatigue. I picked up a book on Adrenal fatigue to help give me a bit more insight. It said that often when you've had extended flu's etc it has a huge impact on the adrenals. I do know that when I'm feeling fatigued and weak I'm less confident and ready to take on life. Happily, I'm not depressed, I'm still able to go out and do my activities, enjoy being with people, do my work etc. but sometimes when tired get hit with these pangs of anxiety. It may be when I think about some upcoming social event or my future etc. Through this whole separation thing I've stayed strong and it's really a strange feeling to be in this kind of space right now. I'm going to see my shrink this afternoon and I'll pass this stuff by her as well. It'll be good to just have someone I can unload on for a bit.
Thanks for your input, Theo...I appreciate it. Hope you're well!