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Thank you Sandi for your encouragement...it's definitely timely. My "guardian angel" at work has told me the same thing. A few days ago I mentioned to her that it seemed like I've been wasting my time over the last six months. She quickly admonished me by saying "look at the wonderful person you have become." She treats me like her son and is quick to give a 2x4 when appropriate. She made me write down my accomplishments over the past six months...so here it goes:

(1) I've gone from being a good father to being an awesome father.
(2) I'm less critical and actually starting to see some glimpses of becoming an optimist.
(3) I have overcome all the negatives at work and have become very content with my career at my new company. I was recently given an R&D award last week and my year-end review was outstanding.
(4) I've lost 40 pounds. I went to my 20th high school reunion at the same weight as when I graduated. My former classmates told me that I hadn't changed a bit.
(5) I have become more patient and tolerant (still a work in progress)
(6) I have re-discovered my relationship with God.
(7) I've become a happier person.

These accomplishments were achieved while under duress from my WAW situation! It's my opinion that my W no longer has any fuel to feed her anger towards me. I'm very proud of the person I've become. My W can't take this from me, even while kicking me to the curb.

Sandi...thanks again for your words of wisdom and encouragement. I'm going to be just fine regardless of what happens with my W...I'm a strong person. I can handle it.

Thanks,
LFH