You sound as though you've made significant progress. Probably it is best to give things some time. There is so, so much to heal from and reinstate and there are new things to learn.
If things ever got to the point w/me that they have w/you, I would be excited, but I would also be scared. Recommitting would seem very foreign and difficult. I would be afraid of H leaving again if things changed or got difficult.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D