Today I went to my house in the morning and my wifes car was in the garage. I went into the house but did not hear anyone. Went up the stairs and W was asleep in the bed with a pile of tissues next to her. I woke her to tell her that a guy from work and I were going to be moving things out of my workshop. She said "ok" and then I asked if she needed anything, I know, I should have ignored her right? But seeing her in that bed,sick, I was transported back to when we were together. There were a few times that each of us got sick in the last year and she would say, "we dont care for each other when we are sick."
Now, I had become numb to her in the last 2 years because of her distancing herelf from me. Very sparse sex life also. I would be with the kids every night from 4pm until 7pm and she did not care one bit. We both began to treat each other like roomates and not like lovers. Fast forward to now and I realise that the other guy has been looking better and better to her for atleast the last 4 years. So, the two styles of DB are conflicting with each other because I was a jerk at times and also my wife is in an EA. So I did what good people do for other people. I asked her if she needed anything and she said no. I also put some laundry away but I did not clean the whole house(it needed it too). I went about my business and did it with confidence and strength.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final