For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

Yes, I was ignoring him, but really like you said, I don't have anything (nice) to say to him. I'm just really annoyed that he thinks he can lie about his behavior over the weekend and then check in with a few text messages on Monday and act like everything is okay - like he's done nothing wrong. I guess I figured ignoring him would tell him that I'm not interested in hearing from him, playing his games or acting like his behavior is okay.

I thought about saying something like - I'm not ignoring you, but what's left to be said? You are not interested in working on our marriage so I really don't have much to say. I'm not interested in simply being friends. I'd rather not communicate then be fake and ignore our problems and ignore the fact you continually strive to deceive me. You lied to me. And you don't want to answer to me and that's fine. I'll do the same - I won't answer to you.
That response needs some work, but that's what's on my mind.

Thanks for the encouragment. I had a really good night with my DD so I'm feeling better. : )