Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

I panic and drove to her work place. She sinickered and laughed at me. And I was begging her to not do this with text. I then decided to leave and come back to work because I didn't to cause a scene.

This is what caused the whole thing:

W:she had a cold again n touches her ears...u need to take her to the Dr.'s again. have them give her a new antibiotic

M:She was like that when you dropped her off sunday. have you been giving her medicine?

w:Yea 1 time n i 4got bout it again...cant they jus give her some ear drops? She wasn't sick when I drop her off cuz she was fine

M:No her nose was runnin. I'm too busy this whole week. Why can't you take her after work?

w:omg wtf?

M:I'm not going to be able to do it till weds after school and its best if she gets looked at asap I'm just saying.

w:fine you know what after the 2 wks wid S b4 he leaves...imma drop off both of them cuz you need to spend some time wid her..I don't care if you don't have a sitter deal with it

w:wateva

M:what is your problem? you think I don't spend enough time with them? Or her?

M:I'm trying to get my education going i hope you can respect that. What is so wrong with you watching my lilo girl?

W:Oh so its okay 4 u to have ur time alone to do ur things but I'm stuck wid D n can't do my things?

M:I can take S thats not a problem ok. But with D she needs her mother more then a father right since she is just a baby.

W:So what u want me to watch her n u can't even take her 4 the weekend cuz u F**ken work...wtf...I have things that I need to f**ken do too but I can't cuz I have her all the time. Yea easy 4 u to just have S cuz he does own thing. That's not fair. She's ur F**ken kid too.

w:OMG ur such a F**ken A**hole ..u selfish peice of s*** F*** you man

m:How I'm I being selfish? Just because I'm not with her all the time? Your only thinking yourself and not her thats why you want to drop her off to me

M:How is that not fair? We both have one of them for now. And its our responsiblity to take care of who we have. What is so wrong with you taking care of her?

w:Wateva I F**ken asked u to take her4 the weekend but ur bithc a** is being a F**ken bitch n won't even take her. Its not fu**en fair if I have up until S comes back. So its okay 4 u to f***** have your free time 4 a month n a half?

W:wtf H u f**ken dumba** S is F**king leaving to cali 4 a month n a half n all i F88Ken ask is 4 u to F**ken take her on the weekends but ur being a f**ken bitch n wont. Fu**er damn

M:What do you think I'm doing with my free time? And I just found that my mom nd them might not even go because the tickets were never bought.

M:I'm trying to find cheaper flights so in reality they might not even go.

w:wtf u nava f**ken told me that sh*t...so all this time I thought he was f**ken going? F**k u who knows if your lying or not

m:OMG W. I have to wait for suncountry to update there website for flights for the next 2 months. Delta and NWA is charging close to $900 for both of them

w:please wateva f**ker.. ur suck a F**ken a** oh so its okay 4 me to take both but you cant stupid a**

M:How can I when I try and talk with you, you blow me away. And like I said I just found out geez.

M:I thought you wanted time to spend with S? Don't you miss him? Gosh I will take him back then. He ask bout you all the time but I don't call or bug you ne more

W:wateva ha cuz all u eva want to do us fucken try to get back wid me so y would i want to f**ken talk to u. Kids fy 4 free till they turn 3 stupid

M:Nope not anymore. Its under 2. Duh he doesn't fly for free anymore. the rules have changed. What so important then our kids? U going our or something?

w:Well duh stupid a** but u can't even f**ken take ur D n try to make excuses like oh she needs her mother blah blah blah

M:I have been giving you your space and trying to improve my life I never mentioned anything about us

W:wateva don't try to f**ken put BS on me again...making me out like I'm a f**ked up mom,..so you can go talk sh** bout me to eva1 like u always f**ken do

w:ha sure you haven't huh?

M:What's so hard with having her all the time? That's your child also. I have S with me all the time. Why is it so hard for you?

w: U know what f*** you u..u aint gonna see both of them at all

M:Then why can't you put them first or her first? I mean I still take her to all her appointment. I still take care of them but with you u make it like its so hard

m:What? You can not threat me my kids

w:cuz I can't take f**ken days off..duh stupid not unless I have enough PTO hrs f*****> I do F**ken take care of her

w:y not its not like you eva had n e connection with D. U don't give a s*** didn't u say she needs her mother

M:then fine. I said I will take her on weds after school. Why is that so hard for you? I thought you would understand that but you get so mad because I have s?

M: I have more connection with her now then ever. I take care of fatty when I have them I never went out when I had both of them with me.

w:whateava u aint fu**en seeing them a**

M: W are you threathing me?

w: No its a promise

M: What do you want me to do W?

w:nothing do wateva you want...u just aint gonna see them

m:no you know I love them. Ok I do not want to do this. Tell me what you want?

w: nope tired of argueing wid u bout the kids n have you bad mouth me bout not being a good mother..so u know whateva this is what it comes down too

Then I just started begging her to reconsider. I never said that I would not take my daughter she just assumes it. I told her I work on Saturdays and I would have to find something to work out for my schedule if my son leaves. She only had her for a week by herself and was trying to get me to pick her up on Tuesday, Weds, and Saturday. I never said I didn't want my D either. She is putting words in my mouth about it. I was busy with both work and school and I thought she would understand.

I tell you man this marriage is going faster down the whole then ever. I called a L to see what rights I have and since we were never legally married she has all the rights. I would have to file a petition with the county attorney to get some kind of legal visitation and parental rights. If I hire a L it would cost me $3K right now on the spot for her to get the paperwork going. I don't have that kind of cash laying around.


I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. All because I asked her to take her to take my D to see a Dr. afterwork. I don't know this woman anymore. She use to put our kids first. She use to care about us and the kids. Its like someone is coaching her to become this person. Its like clubbing, drinking, and having fun is way more important. OM is more important. I don't know what to do anymore.

[sumguy27]

Should I even try and talk with her? Or go to her place afterwork and try and reason with her? I fear the worst right now and thats not being in my kids lives.

[texasbobby]

id give her some space to calm down my wife has said everything yours has.expecallythat she doesnt want to talk cause i want to be with her.

she will calm down about the kids i bet sooner than u think.

[sumguy27]

I offically think my wife has become a whore. I just got off the phone with her. She said that she had do something sunday night to make some money. Thats why she couldn't come get the kids. And that I confronted her about OM to MIL and MIL confirmed it with her and she denied it. I told her the truth from who I learned it from. She got silent and said it doesn't even matter anymore and I don't have to tell you how or what I'm doing to make money. I'm shocked. I told her that I will pick up the kids tonight from her if she is so stressed out. I'm taking them away from her for now and she has to realize what she is doing that is wrong. I feel so disgusted right now....

[texasbobby]

i dont blame u bud. sorry to hear it

[sumguy27]

I still can't give up. I have to fight but I have to have a game plan now. Going to go real dark. I don't know about the whole whore part if its true or not. But to make money at night for me only means one thing. It either she is doing that or selling drugs. Please everyone please pray for her and us. God please please help her get out of this hole. To get us out of this hole.

[Stronger]

Sumguy....here's what you are not hearing or understanding....you can not talk to her. You can not fight this marriage dying by talking to her, you can't convince her of anything.

You are the one letting her pick fights with you. You are the one who is helping her whole heartedly send this relationship down the crapper.

Not only do you need to cut off all contact with her, you need to get a third party or maybe a couple of people, your parents perhaps and let them be the go between for the kids.

This is one of the most volatile relationships I see here on the boards.

You don't need to cut off contact forever, but you need to for a least a few weeks minimum. You don't like each other. You might still love her, but she doesn't like you and you don't like her.

She's not making money at night. She's not prostitutiing. She's trying to make you think she is just to piss you off. She said she'd take the kids, to piss you off and you're buying into all of it.

Stop taking her bait. You've become a game to her. That makes her sort of sick, and mean. But you can stop it if you want to.

[texasbobby]

i have to agree with stronger, i dont see a woman selling her self right after a long relationship for money.

[Steve McQueen]

But to make money at night for me only means one thing.

she got a job delivering newspapers to conveinance stores?

[texasbobby]

how are you doing? you hanging in there?