I caught my H's porn habit just Labor Day weekend, but it was finally the thing that made him stop BULLSH!TTING me, and more importantly, himself, and I've felt the first true hope I've felt in a long time. Although it's still hard not to feel this is all a temporary remorse. But he used to be a more spiritual person and fell far away from that. He's moving back in that direction and dealing with himself because he knows he needs to deal with himself, and not because I'm mad at him or whatever.
Objectification has been a major problem for us, IMO. He wanted me to be The Wife and be his servant, and well, we all know that porn women are objectified. I was quite suspicious because he would say ridiculous things about what women like or do, "a lot of women" he'd say, and I'm like, you don't even KNOW any women. WTF are you talking about? Fantasy women? Why yes, breakaway, fantasy women think I'm their master.
I think he really did lose track of reality for a while. I told him recently that pornography hardens hearts, and he agreed that it did.
I really wish you well. I know it's difficult to change. I applaud you for even trying. Do you see a counselor or anything? You mentioned giving up porn through a spiritual process...did you have help?
