I don't drink that often around wife and kids and if I do I limit it to a couple of beers. I will admit the alcohol does make things worse from an emotional standpoint. Less patience less of a fuse and more jeolousy! LWH Author Stonsy even discusses this in his bootcamp section for LWH. I have very little emotional control if I get drunk in front of her. The last time I did drink in front of her was last thanksgiving eve. Not good!
Pornography was also a big problem. Objectification and marginalization. I have been porn free since april. I've used net nanny in the past and I finally was able to put it down through a very lengthy spiritual process.
I skipped the section for my wife and went straight to the bootcamp section for the abuser. I just started reading this past weekend. I wish I found this book a year ago.
I wanted to also make a comment: breakaway said " even if you can't save your marriage." Breakaway I know there is nothing I can do to save my marriage. With God's help I can love myself. My wife needs to decide if she wants to stay and I don't blame her if she doesn't.
"Let not your heart be disturbed. Do not fear that sickness, nor any other sickness or anguish. Am I not here, who am your Mother? Are you not under my protection? Am I not your health? Are you not happily within my fold? What else do you wish? Do not grieve nor be disturbed by anything."
Our Lady of Guadalupe to Juan Diego
H:37 W:34 D11,S8,S6 Together 19 years M:10 Bomb:4/09
