To 25....it was MY L who actually thought it would be quicker if her L started to write it up. I think also because he did NOT list maintenance on his initial framework. Because they are starting the write up DOES NOT mean that we will agree to EVERYTHING.

As for staying in the house, it will be ordered to be sold. Therefore, I am only in it until it's sale. That may NOT be such a good thing since I will now have to support a house on a 1/2 acre of land, alone AND pay child support. Chapter 13 will be imminent. We are splitting the weekend only for now and hope to get something in writing that will apply until this is done. STBXW works on Sats, so, I get them Sat and she has them Suns. It's nice seeing them every weekend.

FH has been extremely supportive of me...even after I filed which I thought was an amazing thing. He felt that it was the right thing to do at the time and, in spite of his 'standing' approach, he supported my decision as a tool to draw her back in. What became painful is that over the last few months the comments have reversed in spite of the quite apparent presence of STBXW's anger.

To Kerry..it's flat rate and I think it applies to adjusted gross income.

And finally, I remind all that his email was posted anonymously. His comments were hurtful as much as I love this man. It was his choice to reveal the source. I have NEVER posted an email otherwise without someone's permission.

Finally, I thought Frank D's posts showed courage.

I belong, still, to a 'stander's email list' that has FH as a member. Out of respect to him....and to my sentiments expressed today, I am going to resign from their group since my posts are at odds with their philosophy and I do NOT wish to be seen as a hypocrite. As you can see, words are powerful tools and a single email, well......

Thanks to all of you for continuing to follow my situation and to post your feelings openly and honestly.

Yes, Jack....I wear my heart out on my sleeve....HERE. Now THAT...is growth from what it was like several years ago.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;