Infidelity

[sandi2]

I missed your posts about him coming home from CA. Don't know how I did that except I was in a hurry and was trying to reply to what I thought you had misunderstood. Anyway, I would not get too excited about his good mood right now, nor would I think about about finding a lawyer unless you feel that you need to protect your rights as the LBW.

K, I think you are really confused about what you need to do and therefore, I don't think you need to do anything right now, okay? When folks don't know "what" to do....then they need to do nothing, IMHO.

I don't want to sound as if I'm saying anything negative against the DB Coaches, but it seems that it really threw you off balance when you were told to allow your H to stay in the house. Based on what your post said, you were expecting to have him leave. I think all the "advice" has you confused as to what to do.

Let me ask you something. What do you really want to do? You said you had asked him to leave, but he didn't want to. Did you do this b/c you thought that is what a W should do when she is told what your H has told you.....or is that what you truly desired? You just seemed so surprised that the Coach advised you to let him stay.

If you feel that you cannot endure living under the same roof while he's having an affair.....then I don't think you should force yourself. If you don't want to S, then there are ways to coop with a WAH. That is what we've been trying to do....is tell you how to coop under these conditions, but I think you've been so upset that you might be misunderstanding some of what is said.

I would advise you to just try to settle down as much as you can and take a day at a time. Don't rush into any decisions right now. Continue to post and tell us what's going on and how you are feeling. Read other people's threads. You'll be surprised how many are in the same boat.