I"m too tired to post a long explanation, but let me just say, without equivocation, that Robx's dating advice is POWERFUL.
Single-handedly turned my sitch around, in a powerful way! My wife and I had the most amazing date last nite, and it all happened after she did NOT want me dating other people while we were separated . . . EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS THE ONE WHO HAD RECOMMENDED IT!!!
So wanted to updated on my interesting night of GALing. So remember on Friday when h was calling me and I had not answered. My girlfriend and I had gone out dancing the night. And we decided to go to a lounge that H goes to and I go to but separately and not every weekend. Low and behold, when we got there shortly after, I spotted my H across the crowd. He was there with his cousins. So the usual me would have gone over to him to say hi first, but I stopped myself, remembering that its better that he pursues me. So then H saw me and I know he would have expected me to come to him. I didn't, stayed my side of teh room. We both totally put on a show of looking like we were not paying attention to each other, acting like we were having a good time, and I was just there praying that other guys would try to pick me up so H could see, and they did try (I was looking hot). So about 45 minutes later, H's cousin calls me over, and the usually me again was about to go over to them. My friend God bless her soul, told me no, let him come to you. So I signaled to them to come to me. H came over. Asked if I was over here dancing with other people and who bought my drink (he saw a guy had bought my friend her drink) and she bought mine but I gladly told him a guy did. Anyway, the rest of the night H and I had a gooooood time. He was so loving and we danced and just hanged out. Next day H even took me out to lunch. So its all fun and really cool that he got to see me GALing and enjoying my life too.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Good to hear Vicky. I'm glad things are going better for you. Stay strong, and do what makes you happy within reason and however things turn out they will turn out right for you.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
So, wanted to journal.... Today is H's birthday and I decided to use the day to do a 180. I'm guilty of totally spoiling my H and his birthday I usually do something for him of course, stupidly even when he does nothing for mind. But without the knowledge of how R work, I thought then that I was showing a good example, not realizing that I was just enabling him and allowing him to take me for granted. About 2 days ago he even had the nerve to be telling me about a tool he wants and I could get that for his b-day. I was silent and he realized so he said I guess that's a no. I said I'm getting him the same thing he got me last yr - nothing. Then he goes on to talk about how this yr will be different. Whatever.
Well it was different for me. Normally, he is all on my mind for his b-day and although I was thinking about him. I decided not to show it - treat him like I would any other distant friend. So, I texted him a happy b-day and wishing him many more. That's all he gets. He needs to realized that he has changed things between us. Funny thing is that I truly think that I'm the only one that celebrates his b-day. Maybe ow did, not really sure. But I know his family never did. They could care less.
As I told him, maybe next yr. But maybe no. I should have told him, "now H, you know very well that you don't deserve a b-day present." But I didn't.
Let him stew on that for a while.... I need to de-throne hi a**.
Yup, no more spoiling --- he gotta prove himself to you now.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Vicky. Checking in and so glad to see you are doing so great!!! You've got a great attitude. Not mean, but not spoiling him when he doesn't deserve it. Love your GALing story. That was wonderful!!!!
Then he goes on to talk about how this yr will be different. Whatever.
Yup, no more spoiling --- he gotta prove himself to you now.