My H is often tougher on our son than I think he really needs to be, and S18 often feels beaten down after he talks to him. He is a lot more comfortable talking to me, and even though I may give him the same answer as H, he at least feels like he was heard. It has a lot to do with the fact that S18 is a lot like me- laid back and non-confrontational, and that irritates H to no end. I agree S18 needs to learn to stand up for himself more and speak up, and I don't want him to wait until he's 42 like me, but clobbering him verbally is not the way to go about it.
Were you able to have the money conversation with your H? That secret has been a burden for you. Hope your week goes well-
