He moved out Nov 07 and the A was going on since August 06. So, 3 years to be exact. The last 2 years separated he insisted she didnt exist although I had confronted him many times and asked for the divorce. Since Oct-Nov last year we are in pseudo reconcil mode (he requested to come back, I had moved on), but everytime things went bad, he would go back to her without me knowing it. He still insisted she didnt exist. I had not agreed to him moving in again so he slept in his apt.
Feeling puzzled I installed a keylooger and got his and hers passwords. I found the whole story written in her nearly 1000 emails and 400 pics. He cried, admitted it and said he was relieved I found out and told me he wanted me to know but couldnt admit all the lies. I will keep you posted. K
