I think your husband doesn't want to repeat his childhood. I have been praying for the whole lot of you here for over a year.
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I think he doesn't want to either. And I was able to tell S12 that too, and that while I understood his anger and frustration, I said, do you think your grandpa would have every apologized to your dad like that, do you think he would even now? And he said...NO. I said, your dad is trying. We were at a game, and his dad was off in the distance, and I saw S12 kind of soften his expression while he was looking at him, thinking about how his dad is at least trying not be as harsh as his own father.
I think sometimes H gets mad because he doesn't get any credit for not being as bad as HIS dad, if that makes any sense. And H's dad is a prince compared to the violent bastard that raised him. So...I guess it depends on how you look at it sometimes. One thing they tell you at al anon, is that even people doing a crappy job are still probably doing the best they can. Not to excuse them, but simply to understand.
