#66 Looking for Susnhine...

[Andabelle]

I would ask him, "why didn't/can't you say you love me?"

[mishka422]

Actions.....something he doesn't seem up to the task to do.

I understand your feelings on this K. Things have come to far now to be reversed without a whole lot of movement on his part.

What actions from him would you require before you would consider holding off on filing?

[Kalni]

I dont know mish. The fact that he said "if there is the slightest chance, let's not waste it" was good. The fact that the enxt sentence was "if you dont want to, then it's ok" wasnt that great...

He really wrote some things that he has never said before. But he is clueless as to what he would have to do, what we would both have to do to create a good relationship again. Would I ever be able to trust him? I am not sure I could. I dont know. But it doesnt seem right. Something is off again.
K

[Lanzo]

what we would both have to do to create a good relationship again.

File and push ahead, but if you create a good R after that then who knows. (divorced but not done maybe )

Lanzo

[Virtually_Handsome]

But it doesnt seem right. Something is off again.

Then be very careful. Your little voice is usually right. My advice would be to keep moving forward, while giving him a chance to show actions.

[Kalni]

Jeff,
I dont think my gut feeling is about him, I think it's related to me...
K

[Virtually_Handsome]

Kalni,
If you don't think you can commit to him, it wouldn't be a huge surprise, would it? He did a lot to take away your trust.

Or is there something else flying past my dense, male (ok that may be redundant), brain?

[Kalni]

No, there is NOTHING=NOONE else that you "missed"... I wish there was.
K

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((Kalni)))))

It's better right now that there isn't anything else.

If you can't trust him, you can't trust him. If you want to try, then try. Don't over think it, Kalni. Don't do what you think you "should" do. Don't do what you think other people want you to do. Look into yourself.

[kat727]

Jeff is so right. No one else knows all the characters in this drama like you do. Please don't feel that you have to make anyone happy except for yourself. You will know what to do when the time is right.

hugs, kat
ps. tell Ali hi for me and give her a hug too!