That was good, we both liked the thanking him part! It was totally true b/c we just went on a 2 week trip and she kept talking about how he wasn't the type of guy she saw herself with and she just wasn't sure of him.
As far as my sitch, I think I am going to be filing for the big D. I am tenatively planning on talking to the H this weekend.
I talked to a lawyer who said that we don't even need lawyers if we don't want and if we can agree. He told me to get the paperwork at the courthouse and then H will be served. It's a 90 day waiting period in IA. Then he and I will have to work on a Marital Settlement agreement (we can get it on the internet?).
It's better for him (meaning us) not to have a lawyer because the lawyer will smack him upside the head if he/she knows what he told me he would settle for. (I won't owe any of his debt and I get the house and all the money in it). In my case, I think lawyers will result in a worse prognosis for me.
The other night I talked with him because I needed to ask him to go into our Life Insurance person's office. I have been paying his and I'm finished. I was very pleasant about it. After we talked, he called back 5 minutes later. He wanted to tell me how sorry he is for everything that happened between us and he feels really bad. He also said that it really weighs on him some days. I feel pity for him. I don't know how he is going to get rid of the weight from this awful thing that he's done. It's very sad. And what the heck is he going to tell his next girlfriend/wife. (He'll probably just lie). Or maybe he'll marry the OW.
Last I had told you he was going to go to counseling on his own. (Beginning of July) Guess how many times he's gone??? A big fat 2 times. What an effort!!!
Anyways, I'll keep you posted if I talk with him this weekend. I am ready to move forward with my life. I can't be in this limbo anymore. I feel I have given him ample time.......
Any thoughts on what to say. I hesitate to ask because this is no longer a game. I'm not trying to say the right things to win him back cause I'm ready for D.....
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M:36 H:36 M 3 Y T 8 Y No kids Bomb 6/30/08 PA I filed 9/29/09 D final 1/22/2010
