I hear you on the greeting thing. I didn't see him arrive at the gym last night, once i had finished the session I did go up to him to say hi. all I got was a "see you at home". When he is at the gym he is not interested in any chit chat or anything with me, he will not stop what he is doing to talk not even to just say hello. If it is someone other than me then he will stop and talk etc.
When I am at home and he arrives home, I always smile and greet him with a nice "hello", I get no return smile, usually a gruff "hi" and then that is it, nothing more. Our house at present has the kitchen and living upstairs and I do not hear him arrive home until he is coming up the stairs.
I have tried the whole greeting thing and still do but it gets no positive response from H whatsoever.
Looking forward to this morning for my first coaching session. The one thing I did do yesterday which may be totally against DBing rules but I felt it the right thing to do. I sent an email as follows:
Me: Feel like going rock climbing tomorrow night instead of the gym just for something different.
H: Just Go
Me: I mean't rock climbing together, you and me.
H: Oh, is there a centre near home otherwise you will have to come into the city
Me: There is one near home.
H: Ok we will go there.
Maybe I deserve a clip across the ears, but given he said he wanted to work on "us" but wasn't sure if it could ever be the same, I felt it an appropriate thing to do, to attempt a reconnection without appearing to pursue He doesn't believe in "dating" again so to speak so I felt in this way, we were doing something together, we have not done anything together in many many many months.
