WHEN, can you step back and relax and breathe ?I am
WHEN, can you put down the phone, and stop e-mailing ?Do I not respond to any of her emails at all?
WHEN, can you focus on YOU, and look into the mirror ?I am
WHEN, can you realize that all of this BS, somehow contributed to the downfall of this relationship.Stress on both our parts and lack of communication got us to this point.
WHEN, can you drop the rope and let this play out QUIETLY ?Venting to you guys now.
WHEN, you do this, without pressure, you affect the dynamics of the drama that is created throughout this. Quit asking her anything at all,don't remind her of anything at all?
You remove all of the buttons that send YOU spinning in circles, henceforth, taking all reactive communication away from her.Only button is the kids.
Her negativity doesn't hinge on your reations, because they are gone.
Takes the focus off of you , and it gives her no ammunition to throw back at you.
Therefore.....Are YOU really reacting to her ?So I withdrawl even more?
Or is she reacting to you ?hen I have created doubt in her mind as to my intentions?
