BrandNewDay asked me if I was still 'standing' for my marriage.
I am standing back and allowing it to end, much like Sleeper has done. It's only by letting it all go that it has any possibility of starting over some day.
25yearsmlc told a story of her relatives who got divorced and after having other relationships and being nothing more than 'civil' were able to see they could be together once they had grown. This took 5 years.
Is that 'standing' or simply leaving the door open to possibilities while living your life?
BND, we don't really have a definition for 'standing'. My definition that works for me is simply this: I know in my heart I can't love someone else right now. I also know that I am enabling my STBX just as Sleeper is and in ANY situation that is not healthy.
You know that old saying, "If you love something set it free..."
I have set mine free. Whatever happens next will be because God chooses it.
