Just trying to get used to the not calling her, not telling her I Love her, not kissing her,etc.. That feels so wrong but from what I have read here, that is what i need to do. It just seems that it is playing into what she wants and supporting what she wants from me....Nothing..... GGgrrhhh.
This is all pursuit. You can't run her down and catch her by pursuing harder - it will just make her run faster.
Stopping the pursuit is HARD - but it is all inside of you. The only reason it is hard is that you have to stop doing what you want to do. You know it is not working - just look at her reactions - but you still want to do it because it is what you want.
So you have to push back on yourself and stop.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
