I'm not quite sure what it is you're looking for. Go back to your question for advice on the 16th, and my reply to you, and then the excuses you made to my reply. Ditto to Sandi's suggestions.
I think you're wanting someone to tell you what you want to hear, rather than dealing with what you DON'T want to hear. It's perfectly understandable -- it's human nature -- but it's not going to help you.
