I'm new wondering if this works...

[Dia]

I cant' seem to back off without depression. It feels like giving up.

It's not giving up. It is:

1) Best for your mental health and stability. And,

2) A tactical flanking maneuver.

Have you ever seen in something like Judo where in order to throw an opponent, the person has to fall themselves? Removing the resistance leaves the other person with nothing to push against anymore.