FH and I are friends (yes, FH). We met several times and he has truly wanted me to save my marriage.
FH is the only DB'er to have met my STBXW...at Thanksgiving balloon inflation 2 years ago prior to filing
FH tooked me to see Fireproof when it first came out and after I had filed, and, as a gift, gave me the companion book.
Some painful truths:
my marriage is NOT reconcilable nor restorable
I have no anger, but my STBXW does
my STBXW will do almost anything to hurt me now
Some DB comments:
I journal here to document the demise of a marriage...so others can either learn from my mistakes, avoid mistakes, or, perhaps, realize when there is no hope.
I DO NOT JOURNAL HERE TO BE TOLD WHAT A GREAT GUY I AM OR WHAT A GREAT FATHER I AM. That is for newcomers. I DON'T COMMENT HERE TO DENIGRATE MY STBXW..but for others to see the pain of divorce and that even when you have tried to save your marriage and taken the high road, bad things still happen.
living under the same roof with a woman that hates you and constantly puts you down, can cause confusion and blur the truth, and, as such, I DO still post here sometimes to try and KEEP to the high road and maintain clarity
The reason I posted FH's recent email ANONYMOUSLY:
telling me that I had anger and that my marriage was still reconcilable was hurtful and confusing, especially when I posted that my kids were being withheld from me AND....the ANGRY things that SHE DID TO ME the week prior (dumping stuff in my BR sink; empting dishes onto my papers and bills; dumping my laundry all over the floor); pulling stuff out of my son's backpack that was supposed to go to school with him.
I wrote a second email to him asking him to reply to me why he ignored responding about her actions of withholding the children from me. He never responded. Why he accused ME of the anger instead of commenting on hers, I don't know....
he portrays me as posting here to denigrate my wife to garner self-support. TOTALLY ABSURD.
In summary, he is indirectly implying that I am still at blame for the demise of my marriage; he is assigning anger TO THE WRONG PERSON, and, in so doing, coming from him, found it hurtful and confusing.
To follow......
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
