My H said he wants a D, I'm devastated!

[BeingMe]

I suspect that Elizabeth Edwards stays because she has terminal breast cancer, and that brings a different perspective to life. She loves her H, and for the time she has left, I think she is willing to just ignore the bad and live with her kids and H as best she can. I just lost a friend to terminal breast cancer and it she was such an inspiration to me. Terminal, of course, means there isn't much they can do for you except make you comfortable - at least, that's how I understand it.

I think you should let your H know (if the subject comes up) that your home is not a storage unit, and you will keep nothing of his --- he can leave it in a real storage unit. You will be divorced and moving on with your own life. Why would you want to be loaded with the remnants of the old life?

You are right --- it all doesn't make sense unless he is hoping to be able to slip right back into his old life and wife if it doesn't work out. Maybe some OW is insisting he be D'ed? It's all very weird. Don't you feel like there is a whole bunch of stuff that he's not telling you?

As for my H and I --- no butterflies yet, but we are good friends, and I regard him as family, if not a fully functioning H.

Take care.