I have my task at hand to respond to the above. First, today, in court.

Today was a hearing to resolve our requests for orders of protection. This stems from an incident in June when I awoke to find that my cell phone was missing. We met in front of the judge who suggested that if we agree to mutual orders, it would be done, both not agreeing to wrong doing. STBXW ask for a further explanation and cautioned that if not agreed to, it would go to trial today and "would be done in 14 minutes". She refused to agree.

We waited about 1-2 hours until we were called back in. The two attys were able to get a second adjournment in the hopes that we would reach a settlement beforehand. During that time, STBXW called me a liar, etc and didn't not want to agree, etc. After the adjournment, the four of us met in the hallway. Her atty, at times, can be nice and diplomatic. We tried to communicate somethings, but, STBXW returns it back at me and it comes across as petty squabbling which, indeed it is.

The main issue I wanted out in front of the four..was that I wanted 2 nights of homework, alternating Fridays and we split the WE. She brougth up one valid point about me making arrangements about weekends without consulting her first. At one point, I told her L that the greatest gift he could give us was a rapid settlement. At one point, STBXW attacked me saying that she was 'submissive' during the entire marriage...that she isn't anymore...and that I will need to remarry a submissive woman." It was very hard to get a word in edgewise.

My L got her to say that she agrees to selling the house. My L also said that since STBXW agrees, she wants me to maintain occupancy (the deed is in my name) until the house is sold. My my L and I asked her L to 'write up the stip' and get it done. At several points I shook his hand and thanked him.

So, a trial for orders of protection is adjourned to Oct. 23rd. STBXW agrees to sell the house. STBXW attacks me.

Input from my atty:
1) she is dangerous and unstable
2) "I saw how her eyes change and demeanor changes"
3) She has beautiful eyes but there is a sickness and she is unstable.

FIB


Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;