This is another hard one, and it's something I've not had to do in my own sitch so I'm not speaking from experience. The advice hre, however, is the following:
1) Let your H be entirely responsible for this. You will not assist in any way, remind him of deadlines, etc. If he never gets around to it, so much the better.
2) Accept that you cannot control this, so don't try.
3) The message to convey to your H is along the lines of: "If that's what you think you need to do, I understand." The Guccis of the world will even AGREE with the sep. "Yes, this is probably for the best." I've never had to do that, but it sure does seem to give the WAS pause.
4) If your H does present you with sep. paperwork, DO NOT PANIC. Sep paperwork doesn't mean it's over. Keep DBing. It's ok to say you will look over the papers and get back to him. You don't have to allow him to make you sign on the spot.
Last edited by Dia; 09/21/0905:47 PM.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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