Last night I had to drop some kids stuff off for W. She had just gotten back from a vacation with her sister and cousin...I think last night talking to her was the happiest I've seen her in a long time, that made me happy. I realized last night that I no longer wanted her happy conditionally (with me) but unconditionally...It was just really nice to see how happy she was.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Last night I had to drop some kids stuff off for W. She had just gotten back from a vacation with her sister and cousin...I think last night talking to her was the happiest I've seen her in a long time, that made me happy. I realized last night that I no longer wanted her happy conditionally (with me) but unconditionally...It was just really nice to see how happy she was.
v-dog
just coming through the door of your thread for the first time.
This most recent post of your's really caught my eye though. Your being happy for your W and in the uncinditional way is really great. This sure sounds like a terrific milestone for you.
Now I will have to get around to reading more of your sitch at some point since I just happened upon that one and only post. Just wanted to mention how awesome that is though. Congrats man. Very unselfish and I am sure a whole host of other things all of which you should be proud of. Nice.
Thanks T...It did make me feel good to know I'm at that point. The thing is I know my W and I will always be friends our D isn't messy we still get along great, agree on parenting issues, ect. Maybe that makes it easier for me.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
So someone sent my W an email about how Retro saved her marriage, it was I guess a friend of a mutual friend of her's...She thinks I sent it through a made up name and email account...She wasn't very happy.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
So Friday I had to drop off some stuff for D at W house...We were chatting a little nice talk...Then I was in the kitchen and see a post-it on the counter
Wifes name Home Phone: xxx-xxxx Cell Phone: xxx-xxxx
Description of my car...
I look at her and say what the heck is this. She says I was just doodling...wtf you were doodling with your phone numbers and my car description...After about ten minutes she says that one of the neighbors has seen me driving by (hasn't happened) and there were some "strange" things happening, wouldn't tell me.
I was po'd big time...
I leave texted W to call me if D was going to cheerleading in the morning (she has strep). She sends me back a long text, her text are usually one or two words...Sends me a text in the morning that D is not going...
There was a big concert in the city on Saturday night that we both went to, not together...During the concert she texts me "hope your enjoying the concert, W"...That's the first text I have ever gotten from her not about the kids.
I'm still pissed about the whole post-it note thing...For her to think I obsessed and stalking her is ridiculous.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
It's pretty normal - I've noticed that WAS's tend to be paranoid. My W used to accuse me of "monitoring" her, but she moved onto the road that is my route to Walmart, grocery store, lots of restaurants. Rather than trying to rationalize with someone who is irrational, I simply started to take the long way around.
my wife says the same thing and im 1500 miles away. she says i call others to check up on her. i dont...i think they have to be completely irrational it gives them power.
me 27 w 26 d7 s5 t17 m7 moved to tx from va 02/25/09 sold home in va and moved 03/23/09 bomb 04/16/09 w&kids in va me in tx working
Lol... maybe my stalking techniques are rubbing off on you! kidding.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Not sure why but woke up very depressed this morning. I think it's because I was thinking about this weekend...I get the kids, which is great but that means W will be with OM...I think what's bothering me is they get to do the stuff W and I couldn't do because of the kids, they're just free they don't have to deal with life when they're together.
Last edited by volleydog; 09/25/0912:53 PM.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
kidding.