More of the same behaviors:
-saying ILY
-long "talks"
-being home whenever H comes over
-reacting to H's anger - button pushing
-sad when around H
-resisting H around legal sep
-feeling responsible for H's anger, frustration

Trying something new:
-No more ILY until I hear it
-no R talks, or very short succint ones - I will set and keep limit
-GAL or busy in house
-light, upbeat, laughter when around H
-agree and let go (not show it bothers me) when h talks about legal sep
-Let H deal with his own anger/frustration

-listen, validate, then walk away


Me: 42
Him: 43

Two divorcees in a relationship