Many people on here say you can't go dark with kids, etc. I did. I went probably a month, and only communicated with W two or three times on scheduling conflicts, all via text. It was very hard at first - felt like part of me was being carved off with a dull butter knife. However, at the end of the month, I was on top emotionally, mentally, spiritually, even physically.
I will also say: ALWAYS take your kids, even if it means W is going off with OM. That was so hard for me to swallow - that W would give up time to go party, be with OM, etc, but I did it. And now, I have a relationship with my kids that I can barely comprehend!
You can not be and are not responsible for W. She has made the decision to leave the marriage, and transferred her affections to someone else. You ARE responsible for your kids, and you can't teach them anything by accommodating W's affair.
