I'll have to cruise by your place and read up a bit! Thanks for the thanks. If it had been OW1, I'd have had to throw down and give ultimatums about her. But OW2 is a bit different. H started that R at a point in the sep where we both thought this was all done. I think we knew that 'done' wasn't what we wanted, but we were both trying to play the hand we'd been dealt. In that light, it made it much easier to be tolerant, respectful and compassionate about his R with her. Doesn't mean I liked it! And it doesn't mean that it didn't/doesn't hurt. It was both easier and harder to deal with that if it had been OW1.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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If it had been OW1, I'd have had to throw down and give ultimatums about her. But OW2 is a bit different. H started that R at a point in the sep where we both thought this was all done. I think we knew that 'done' wasn't what we wanted, but we were both trying to play the hand we'd been dealt. In that light, it made it much easier to be tolerant, respectful and compassionate about his R with her. Doesn't mean I liked it! And it doesn't mean that it didn't/doesn't hurt. It was both easier and harder to deal with that if it had been OW1.
