T2,
I'm here! Holdingon had a lot of great things to say!!!

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T2, so many of us WANT to be in the hell that you are in now. So... THINK OF US when you are ready to quit... you need to do this for US as well as yourself. Tackle the job, we all have faith in you, and everyone is here for you.



I echo this! We are your cheerleaders! You fail and we are all going to feel like we will ail also! Sorry to put all this pressure on you! I sent you an e-mail. I have doubts about my sitch also, I know this is normal, we shouldn't assume; and I always do. I'm always wanting to "fix" things.And always want to "figure" things out. It's driving me nuts!
Back to you, Do you need me to send you duct tape? Believe me, I KNOW that i'm going to be where you are someday. But since I'm not there now here it goes. You are looking for a fight, you are angry he is doing nothing and you are doing all the work. STOP! Count your blessings, be thankful for what you do have. You have to build your M/R like a house; from the bottom up. I don't want you pushing your H out the door! Be friends, do things togther. Ask him what he wants from you; meals, socks. Then compromise, You'll do "this" if he does "that". Your M/R is a partnership. A friendship! It's giving to each other, not just one person. Give your H space, he is not ready to talk about A's, drop it, I know you want it out and over with so you can move to building your M/R. But he is not ready for that talk. Build your M/R first, the rest will follow in time! PATIENCE! And keep DRing! Don't go back to the "Same habits" Remember the domino effect-what you do you get back. So be careful what you send out to H; you may not like what you get in return. I REALLY want to see your M/R work! Yes it is in the palm of your hand! You can do this; it is not easy, I'd say this is the hardest you will have to work! But I know you want your M, don't throw it away because you have doubts! You have worked too hard to see this happen!
I'm not saying what you think and how you feel is wrong, heck no. Just bring it here and don't throw it at your H! What you feel and how you think is OK, it's normal. Just keep it here!
Thinking of you!
OOHH, I'm bad I'm typing this will at work!
Deb

bom:01/2003
D: 03/14/2006