First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

I've thought long and hard about it Pup and I'm still not sure what's the best way. Would we have been further along if I'd taken the complete hard ball stance in the beginning? Don't know.

I do believe that a tough love approach is necessary to bust up the A. I don't believe the DB approach is the right way to go there. Being the waywards "friend" while they're actively involved in an A is unrealistic, IMHO.

Once the A is busted up, then I think patience is the key. Especially with a spouse that has got to the point in their feelings that they're ready to walk. And doubly especially with a spouse like mine that is as bull headed as they come.

I don't know. Maybe I was too bull headed to give up. Maybe it's my competitive nature, I hate to frickin lose. Maybe it was circumstance that I didn't really have many options at the time due to financial considerations that would allow me to end it. Maybe it was every time I looked at my kids and couldn't stand to see them be from a broken home. Still lots to think about.

But it's good. W and I had lunch today. I have to go out of town for a couple nights again, leaving in a bit. When I dropped her off I gave her a kiss and she told me to be careful and that she loved me. And it was good.

Thanks for the compliment Pup. It means a lot.