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[mishka422]

That's why it is so important to get as informed as possible - to dispell the fear.

We started out having separate L's. His dropped him about 6 months after he filed for several reasons and by then he didn't have money to hire another one. I already had mine on retainer so she finished it for me.

You heard me right - he filed but in the end I had to be the one to finish it. He was quite content to keep me legally tied to him while continuing the disrespect me and our family while having no intention of giving up his adultery partner. I had to be the one to push the D to it's end.

The process in GA is simple if you aren't arguing over things. It's just as drawn out as anywhere else if you are.

The up side is....it's very easy to stop the D up until the last second when the judge signs and stamps the final decree. Take heart in that.

Tell your L your specific wishes. Be completely open. You don't want a D, you want this to go as slowly as possible. From the time you are served papers you have 30 days to respond. Make sure to tell your L to wait the entire 30 days and to wait the entire maximum time for EVERY response from then on.

Unfortunately I don't know anything about mediators in GA. I have a lot of friends that I met through DivorceCare that have been through the process but they all used L's.

I hope that answers some of your questions SSGA. Most importantly, you need to do what you feel is right for you and your family. Never give in to pressure from your W to sign something, move anywhere, or do anything. This is about YOUR life. This is about your children's lives. If your W is so determined to get out of your M, then she suffers the worst of the consequences. She moves out, she doesn't not enter the home once she does, she suffers the financial burdens of her new situation all on her own, she loses at LEAST 50% of time with her children.