Oxymoron to lovingly-detach?

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I'm struggling with how to lovingly detach. I just feel like detaching is to stop feeling love. If I'm detached, I feel so distant and don't feel like I care. How can you be detached and still love from a distance?

I'm trying this and feel like a jerk. I feel like it's playing hard to get... but he doesn't want me anyway. So it feels stupid.

Can someone explain how to balance this?

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