Second Half Playbook

[mindfull]

Hey Steve:

I just wanted you to know, scary as it seems... I learned something from you!

Tired of the same ol' same ol'. Starting THIS am, I've decided to turn the tables a bit.

H peeks one eye out from under a t-shirt he's put over his head. (I've taken the kids to school, walked w/friends, etc...) I'm not getting ready to shower, etc... Has some semi-sarcastic question about hearing all of the noise going on in here? Me? "No, I didn't hear a thing." (Normally, I would apologize, engage him to talk more, etc... F*ck no. We're moving down a NEW tunnel, starting this am!)

H makes another semi-sarcastic comment about me being really "out" when he came to bed last night, and I was lightly snoring, so he nudged me a few times, and I finally stopped. Me? "Must have been in the air, because I did the same to you, but choose not to allow petty things become a complaint."

More of me getting clothing out, etc... ZERO engaging...

I come out, hair done, make-up on, clothed (cute, too, I might add!). H says, "Geesh, what were you doing in there?????" Me? "If you needed to get in the bathroom, the door's always unlocked, and I have never had issues with you being in there when I'm getting ready, or just being present."

I walk out of the room. Again, ZERO engaging beyond answering his 'tude!

H follows me... (nice voice) "Wasn't that funny last night at dinner when...? Me? "Yes, very." H, again... "How about when....? Me? "Oh, yea, silly."

I keep walking into the hallway. H asks, "Where are you going now?" Me? "Into the next room to work." H asks, "Oh, yea, then where?" Me? "Well, I have all sorts of things to do."

He hangs... I add, "Do you need something? H? "No." I say, "Well, then do you mind not following me around? I feel like thedog has a twin!"

My phone rings. I grab it, QUICKLY! "Oh, HI, NEIL! Hahahaha Gosh, you are so awesome. I can't believe the genius you've displayed! How do I repay you? ahhhahahah" H walks in when I'm done... I ask, "YES?" H says, "Nothing, I'm showering." Me? "OK."


This is what he'll get this week. New approach. Me? COMPLETELY not engaging him. Cute, polite, and reactionary conversation only.

Doesn't hurt to have male's calling in his presence either. AND, with me laughing and complimenting them. (He doesn't have to know the dude on the other end is some smelly German w/the worst breath known to man!)

Thought you'd enjoy.