HOME AGAIN....ROUND 2

[holdingon]

Yikes, I must say, I posted a great post and ZAP, it is gone.

I think that we women give our men such SH*T because we want to see if they will take it. See how much they love us. I know I did this to my H... unbeknowst to me he was with OW at the time. It was ALL insecurity.

I wonder if you are secretly trying to sabotage your reconciliation. Deep down, do you wonder if your R will make it or not? Are you tired of not being able to say what you want/relax in your own home/do what you want/walking on eggshells all the time? Do you figure, why go through all of this, he's going to walk out again anyway... I might as well push him out on MY terms.

You know as well as I do, from reading all the posts on piecing, that now is the time that PATIENCE is most important. You, like me, see an improvement and WANT IT ALL NOW. You are tired of working on the R... ready to have it like you want it.

Stop blaming your H for what was. Give him credit for being COURAGEOUS enough to come home. He knows what happened last time. You want this M/R. Otherwise, why would you have spent so much time working toward this?

Next time you come home, give yourself some transition time. Pray for God's guidance in what you do/say. Do some deep breathing exercises. Instead of looking at your H and thinking "I can't believe you had an A" look at him and think "I am grateful that you love me enough to risk coming home and working on our R."

We are all behind you. We WANT this to succeed. Remember your "think of me" post. I DO think of you. Yes, the pressure is on... but you CAN do it.

Do us gentiles say "Happy Day of Atonement?" Have a good one, T2. We love you and are rooting for you.