I have stopped all emails to him(about 5months ago I started that) I do not call him when I am at work( I used to call alot) I dont ask him to come out of the basement or to put his ring back on(2 weeks on that one) I never talk about our future(really hard to do when we have 2 small children) I stop most BS that comes out of his mouth when he is drunk by changing the topic. I dont ask him when or if he is going back to school. I encourage him to go running or biking or if he needs a break from things that I will watch our children while he goes and watches football.. I dont nag about anything...
I do not think he is having an affair...but who knows..he is home every night and on weekends...attentive to me and the kids..
As far as detaching..not much...I was but he reeled me back in,
I can use A TON of improving..my anger issues, being more organized, not worrying so much about him, my money managing skills could use some work...I already run and workout...I am starting therapy this week...but I have done a pretty good job of changing the way I react to him.
i realize that a man does not want a needy nag...so I have been trying to change that. But I am starting to think what about me...I have ignored my needs for so long..it has always been about him for me...I have always been scared to lose him..but when and how can I turn that around...
