One of the hardest things to do seems to be successfully transitioning out of LRT and detachment when the WAS stops running and starts making small steps toward the R. At this point is seems really hard to judge what is "pursuit" vs. what is appropriate.

We all have this difficulty. The tendency is to either a) restart pursuit (and drive our spouses away again) or b) stay withdrawn and distanced (and keep any reconciliation from occurring).

I think you are doing a good job of holding to the middle. I don't think calling her "Sweetie" is inappropriate pursuit.

At some point you have to take a risk and allow the R to restart.

Last edited by Thinker; 09/21/09 02:44 PM.
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