Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Hi D-
I know I can't fix his boredom, his depression , his MLC...his general unhappiness. Its hard not reacting when it feels like he blames me-not always openly...I really need to focus better on detachment and being nonreactive.

In a way my H seems like two different people. At night when we're alone in bed he's always affectionate, passionate and caring. During the day, he is his usual self: up and down. Not particularly affectionate...Its kind of a weird dichotomy right now.

The weather changed last night and now its cloudy and a bit rainy-just the kind of weather that sends H into a deeper funk.
We'll see what tonight brings-we're having one of our bi-weekly talks(per our agreement in marriage counseling) to do active listening..and communicate more effectively.