She'll be worried about what it will do to the children if she leaves. Rightly so. Don't rescue her from that. Let HER agonize about what HER decision will mean for the children. That will be tough for you to do. Stand firm.
So she wont leave without the children. Unfortunately, at this point she can't afford an apartment or anything on her own. She really has no income. It appears that we will be stuck together for as long as this process takes (and I say process given the roller coaster of her ways - who knows what is next) I wont leave. Of course she wont listen to me try to explain finances..... When I talk, she mostly tunes me out right now. OK, I can handle that. Interestingly, she doesnt think that a divorce will effect the childre at all. She has this feeling that we wills till be this little family, just not married. I cant imagine it will be like that, maybe i am wrong?
I'm a big believer in women taking ownership of their claims, words and actions. Shell, I don't know if you're a jerk to live with or not. But if you are such a jerk that she thinks y'all should separate, make her OWN that and leave you.
Sad thing is that I am really nice guy to live with. Maybe too nice. And yes, I see myself as the family providor, so it is really tough to think about where this is going for her..
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present
