I am scared that I messed up...

[istillluvmywife]

Yesterday my S and I went with my W to her 5K run to cheer her on. Several days before the event, she said that it is such a short run that there is no reason we have to get up early to go with her. I told her we would we normally only went to the longer races.

After leaving her at the start line we went to the 1K point and cheered her on as she passed, then we made it over to the finish area and waited for her at the 4.75K point. When she passed I yelled GO MOMMY GO, WE LOVE YOU...opps that slipped.

After the race, we all went for breakfast and she said that she was glad we both came. When we got home my S and I went to play upstairs while my W relaxed in the living room. After lunch my S went to a friends house and I came home and worked out while
my W got ready to go to a friends house for a Girls afternoon.

She left to go to her friends and I went to pick-up our S. She called me to tell me that there was some kind of event going on not too far from our house and that if I was looking for something to do with S then we should go see what was going on.

So we went and found that it was a family skate day at the skateboard park. They had a national team there performing stunts, a BBQ (free hot dogs) and prizes. My S (6yrs old) loved it. We stayed most of the afternoon just watching these amazing kids.

We came home and S was watching a movie and I went of FB and ended up chating with an old girl friend that I had worked with 20 years ago. She had mentioned that her and her husband had separated over a year ago and that she is planning on moving back in with him. I explained my situation with her and she suggested we meet for a coffee that evening so that she could give me some advise as a WAW.

My W came home and our S and I told her about our afternoon and she said that although she had a good time, she would have much rather spent the afternoon with us at the skatepark. I told her that I was going out for a coffee with a friend for about an hour. She questioned who, and I told her a girl I used to work with 20 years ago that I and chatted with on FB that afternoon.

Just before I left she had asked me if I had a problem with this guy emailing her music that she mentioned earlier that week. I said no, that he had been emailing her music for sometime as they both have the same taste in music.

Met-up with the old girlfriend/colleague from about 20 years ago for coffee.

She is a WAW and had been separated from her H for just under a year, he has moved across the country 2 months ago for work when she had told him that she would be willing to move with him and start fresh together with their 2 kids and work on the M together.

Their sitch is very similar with the exception that the husband was involved in an EA. She told me about how she was feeling neglected and un-loved and finally gave up on the marriage, but had stayed with him for 2 years before she actually dropped the bomb. He then owned up to having not 1 but 2 EA for almost a year. But when hit with the bomb, he ended the EA right there and said that he wanted to work on the M. He pursued her, begged her, and pleaded with her and with all of his efforts pushed her further away. She told me that I needed to give my W space and simply concentrate on my S and me. When she started to see the changes he was making in his life and that he was over her and moving on, this is when she started to realize that she too had to make some changes in her life and realized that she still loved him.

They started going to counseling and were working on the R before he got the job offer across the country. They decided that it would make a great fresh start and decided to do it together. She did say that she was still affraid that life may go back to what it was in the past but did say that she did want to take the risk for the family and that if things did not go back to what they were, then they would have a great future together and that was worth the risk.

When I got home my wife asked how my coffee was and I simply said it was good. She then made a comment about something on my facebook page and that I have not posted much on their in quite some time. I asked her if she was checking up on me...I told her that I don't post much about myself on there that I used it to connect with old friends.

She probed more about my coffee "date" as she put it and I told her about my friends situation and did not reveal any of the advice she gave me.

We then went to bed.